Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Man Card and communication

Man cards are a tough challenge. My husband and son encourage me and love nearly anything I create. My men inspire me. My husband, Mike, is a truck mechanic for a utility company. Mike also has a GREAT eye for card designs and papercrafting projects. He designs, but doesn't implement. He's my go to guy when I'm stuck or feel like something is missing from one of my designs. He is good at seeing my design and then suggesting additions, twists, and new direction with the same set of supplies. Often, he will remember another set he's seen in the A Muse Studio catalog and suggest adding an additional image or element. Amazing. But there are times when I have worked on a design and I really, really like what I have done. I show him the card and he starts to make suggestions. That is what I wanted to hear! I wanted him to say it was perfect just the way it is. I'm hurt and disappointed. He doesn't understand why I'm upset, afterall, I'm always asking for input. When do I want input and when do I want approval?
I've learned to warn him before I show him a design that I feel is my best work. My warning, "I'm not asking for input, I'm just showing you this one" identifies an inconsistent message. That simple communication has saved hurt feelings.
I've learned at least one other lessons about communication with a husband; it isn't fair to spring a love pop quiz with no preparation. In the past, I would "test" my husband and his love or commitment. I would set up a situation and see how he reacted and then judge his reaction or non-reaction. If I didn't get the desired reaction, I was hurt or pouted. Was it fair to give him a relationship "pop quiz" without any parameters or study materials? Learning to communicate that something is important to me has improved our relationship. Pop quizzes in relationships aren't exactly fair or necessary. And with that last tidbit, on to the important stuff about the card.
This is a card I made with Mike in mind. I'm nuts about using a juicy dark colored pigment ink pad and clear embossing powder. Clear embossing powder works well with any dark color pigment ink.
Stamp set: Rock Star (A Muse Studio)
Paper: French Roast Gingham, French Roast solid card stock  (A Muse Studio)
Ink: French Roast A Muse Studio pigment ink
Embossing powder: Clear (A Muse Studio)
Please leave your comments and suggestions. Any suggestions for adding another color or another focal point are welcome. Thanks for looking.
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  1. Oh why didn't you have this post last month? I did that same thing to my poor man! I asked him what he thought of a card and he did not give the correct answer so I pouted for a bit and he had no idea what was wrong. He asked if I was ok and I responded "I'm FINE" yeah. What is the background paper? I love some type print paper you know!

  2. Cool cards,Ms Judy! I think I liked the one on the left the best. I'm so proud of you~you just jumped in with both feet & wheels!! I'm still being a little cautious about where I want to go yet. I liked your discussion about husband communication skills. My hubby has a favorite saying~why say in 12 words what you could have said in 2?! Well, I have tried to convince him that 2 words can be misunderstood in so many ways. I started explaining my thots before asking for his & he tunes out after the first 2 words cause he says I talk a subject to death. Maybe when we're 90 we'll have it figured out. We've been married for 41yrs & I love him dearly but not because of his communication skills! I think it's super your hubby gives you his ideas. Keep up the good work! jan


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